My Thighs Kiss




 Skirt, Crop top, Peplum jacket, Bow Heels, Sunglasses, Bag

This outfit was inspired by a scoop of neapolitan ice cream–well, the strawberry and chocolate parts which are my favorite. I snapped up this Rachael Ruddick crossbody bag when it went on sale recently. It came in several leather options but embossed croco is my favorite (love that gold hardware.) To go have a drink with my husband on Saturday night, I wore this pink pencil skirt and crop top. I haven’t worn anything with a thigh split since the last time I wore my favorite draped dress, but I thought this was a fun night-in-LA look.

This post is also a love letter to my thighs.

Thighs stretched smooth in front of mirrors, only to bounce back to dimpled superfluity. This is for the girls, like me, who changed carefully in the locker room so as to hide your body. For the girls and women whose jeans wear away from the inner seams out, this is for you too. Finally, let this be an homage to that moment so many of us women experience when we realize it doesn’t actually matter what we are wearing. Because women get stares wearing sweats at Target. So dress on your own terms. I want to see my body through my gaze for a change. No thigh gap. No problem. My thighs are not rubbing; they are kissing.

P.S. I’m excited to debut a new layout on the blog. It’s better organized and pretty cute. Be sure to check out the new About page and improved navigation. Tell me what you think!


    • Jay says

      Hi Alnisa, thanks for your comment and yes I love this skirt so much. I think Eloquii is rivaling my love for ASOS with the purchases I’ve made so far! x

  1. says

    Howdy! I know this is sort of off-topic but I needed to ask.
    Does running a well-established blog such as yours require a large amount of work?
    I’m completely new to operating a blog but I do write in my journal daily.
    I’d like to start a blog so I can easily share my experience and feelings online.
    Please let me know if you have any kind of ideas or tips for brand new aspiring bloggers.

    • Jay says

      Hi! Thanks for your question. I wouldn’t say my blog takes a large amount of work, especially since you determine how much time you put in, but I do think you do have to be dedicated. It depends on your content too though (e.g. travel blogging, food blogging, pop culture commentary.) I manage to keep this blog and write for a few other outlets while still being at home with our toddler. If you’re a writer and feel comfortable sharing online, I think setting up a blog is a great thing to do. There are several free platforms or you can go the more involved route of setting up your own domain with hosting. Your question makes me think I’ll put together some blog resources up – including lessons I’ve learned and tips. What do you think?

  2. Deanndre says

    Perfect post and outfit. I love your message about thighs kissing. I’ll be sharing this post with my sister and mother for sure. I’m starting up my very own blog soon and can’t wait to add you to “my favorite blogs” list. Thank you for sharing, Jay! p.s. LOVE the new layout.

    • Jay says

      Thank you and congrats on starting the blog soon! I’m confident you will love blogging, the more you do it the more you learn and enjoy it!

  3. Clara says

    “My thighs are not rubbing; they are kissing.” – spot on!!!
    You are such an inspiration – a beautiful woman who loves herself and goes out to the world confidently. Thank you for sharing your thoughts in the blog, it gives me a bit more confidence to go out to the world and show how my thighs kiss as well :)
    BTW, you are ROCKING this outfit!

    • Jay says

      I’m so glad you liked it! If this blog can help inspire you to do something you might not otherwise do, then that is the best compliment this site could possible get. Thank you!

  4. Jay says

    Hi Karen, thank you so much for the kind words and encouragement. It does motivate me to keep doing what I’m doing this little blog. xo

  5. Chrischell Smith says

    I love the color combo on this look! I knew it reminded me of something then u said the Neapolitan ice cream and immediately I started to crave! LOL! New subbie here looking forward to reading more of your posts! <3 PS. The love letter to your thighs is so relatable thank you for this it actually made me feel better about myself! #mythighskiss

    • Jay says

      Hi Chrischell, welcome! Thank you for the feedback, it inspires me to know when a post resonates with someone, especially when one feels like the only person going through something. I really feel like part of the community of readers here and hope you do as well! x

  6. Hilda Elizondo says

    Growing-up, I believed I was the only girl that would wear-out her jeans from the inner thighs and no where else. I have always tried to cover-up my fats as much as I could and ever being able to wear cute outfits. Yes, I’m that woman that secretly wears spaghetti strap tops under a shawl or cardigan only wishing I could just wear a tank top in public. Until recently I’ve been brave enough to wear a strapless dress in public! My loving husband encouraged me to wear it. He said “You look so sexy!” On our way out I ran to look for my jean jacket a.k.a. Security cover-up and was about to slip it on when my husband caught me and said “heck no you’re not covering-up!” Well, I had to put on my big girl panties on, no pun intended, and left home wearing magenta, strapless maxi dress on. I felt self-conscious at first but when I felt the warm sun on my shoulders I felt liberated. My husband just said “I can’t believe I’m married to the most beautiful, woman in the world. I am a lucky man.”

    • Jay says

      Hilda, I love this comment so much! Thank you for sharing your story. I know a lot of us can relate to the feeling of wanting to wear something but feeling a little trepidation. Your description of feeling the sun on your shoulders is so lovely. Please keep wearing what makes you happy! Thank you, thank you.

  7. says

    Hi Jay
    I always come and have a look at your blog from time to time and everything you post is relevant & inspiring & your outfits are always so glam – don’t get me started on your shoe game – nothing beats it.
    This post especially touched a chord with me not only cause I recently went back to gym , lol but because of your lovely poem. Because in those sentences you express how so many of us feel at any given time so thank you !
    If you don’t mind I would like to give regency to your poem in my next blog post , because I want to share with so many others & don’t worry I definitely will disclose that you are the author.

    Thanks again
    Much luv
    Stacey G

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